Here’s what happens when you start talking about death

talking about death

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An interesting thing happens when you start too talk openly about death.
To sit with its overwhelming presence.
To let it in. To hold it.
To harness its power.

Three months ago I started talking more about death.
I started a job that demanded I face death.
At Frazer, we serve funeral directors.
So they can serve their communities.
With compassion, empathy, and love.
Devoted to their work 24/7.

You might initially think this a depressing subject.
But here’s the interesting thing that happens.
This focus allows you to shine a light on life.
A beacon of presence emerges.
You begin to honor every moment.
With the respect it deserves.
The humility it holds.
The presence.

The unending reality of death is unavoidable.
This reality can be very overwhelming.
You are here now, and then maybe not.
What would you leave behind?
What might be your legacy?
Your gifts for humankind.
Your touchpoints.
Your lessons.

Do you see what I mean?
When you’re willing to accept it?
Death, I mean…as our never ending reality?
It lives with you. Connecting your destiny.
With all whom you connect and touch in your life.
Leaving you full of motivation.
To really live your life.
To be present.
To Love.


Capturing Their Voice: How To Save a Loved One’s Voicemail

“I remember the last text message my sister, Wendi, had sent shortly before her death back in 2007.  A voicemail would have been even better, but I went back to that text message again and again and can attest that it definitely was like the time machine referenced in the article below…”


In an article for Refinery29, Anna Davies shared why she saved her mother’s last voicemail — even though that voicemail was essentially a grocery list that starts off asking her to buy hamburgers. Davies even listens to the recording on her old iPhone 4. She says it’s “a time machine that allows me to step into the past — if only for the 22 seconds of the recorded message.”

Source: Capturing Their Voice: How To Save a Loved One’s Voicemail