Why it’s so hard to blaze your own path…

written by john c ashworth

Have you ever found yourself on the wrong path and wondered how you got there, and felt embarrassed that it took you so long to notice? It’s OK. We are all human. The real question is how do you get back? And if you’re blazing your own path, this question can trigger lots of fear, anxiety, anger, frustration, and even boredom. Because when you’re blazing new paths, it’s harder to find the road when you get lost, and often you find yourself doing nothing as a result. In fact, there is no road ahead of you. YOU are building it yourself, and if you lack confidence and clarity about who you are and what your mission is in this world, action is stymied and you end up doing either nothing or all of the wrong things. Suddenly, you’re in a job you don’t love focusing every day on the pain of your confusion and frustration and unless you take conscious action to remove yourself from this unfortunate loop, you head in to a downward spiral.

The feeling must be similar to that of the pilot who finds himself in a flat spin with no other option but to eject. You must do the same. Find your ejection handle and duck. You don’t want to end up like ‘Goose’ from Top Gun, who smashes himself against the glass of the cockpit and is never to be heard from again. This ejection will be jarring, painful, and abrupt. In the short run, you will likely find yourself in a worse position than you were before…financially, emotionally psychologically. That’s why so many of us decide to just keep going. To follow the path we can see, instead of finding the confidence to choose a direction and blaze one of our own. It takes a ton of courage to pull that handle and live with the consequences of where you land. It takes true guts.

Are you ready?

-Coach Ashworth

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