21 Tips for Success in life and business

written by john c ashworth

I discovered this tips for success list at a garage sale in more than 15 years ago and have had it hanging in my office ever since.

H. Jackson Brown Jr, author of the famous “Life’s little instruction book”, compiled this beautiful little list with the same kind of wisdom in his book. The kee kind of perceptions that we can all cultivate for more success in life and business.

If you’re not familiar with the book, I suggest you pick-up a copy and keep it lying around in a place where you can go to it when you need some simple life inspiration. It’s chock full of golden nuggets sure to give you a boost and a new perspective when you need it.

#1 on the list I’m sharing with you today is so incredibly true for me. Laura and I have been married twenty-five years now 🙂

I discovered the framed pictured below at the Westmorland garage sale here in Madison. That was our old neighborhood.

Currently, as you can see, it hangs in the ash flash workshop on the still unfinished wall out here where it’s a little colder and a lot more rustic; and prone to inspiring creative boosts of energy especially on Saturday and Sunday mornings.

This is a terrific list full of good reminders and simple advice on how to get the most out of your life.

Here are your 21 suggestions for success by H. Jackson Brown Jr.

  1. Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.
  2. Work at something you enjoy and that is worthy of your time and talents.
  3. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
  4. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
  5. Be forgiving of yourself and others.
  6. Be Generous.
  7. Have a grateful heart.
  8. Persistence, Persistence, Persistence.
  9. Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.
  10. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
  11. Commit yourself to constant improvement. “I love this one! This is really what the ash flash is about on so many different levels.” -John
  12. Commit yourself to quality.
  13. Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationships with people you love and respect.
  14. Be loyal.
  15. Be honest.
  16. Be a self-starter.
  17. Be decisive even it means you will sometimes be wrong.
  18. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.
  19. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do a lot more than the ones you did.
  20. Take good care of those you love.
  21. Don’t do anything that wouldn’t make your Mom proud.

“Godspeed to you, my friend. Thanks for being a reader of the ash flash!” -John

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There is no such thing as auto-pilot when it comes to your goals and resolutions…

written by john c ashworth

Usually, by this point in the year, most have abandoned their new years resolutions.


Ideas are the easy part.

Most people don’t understand that in order to make changes that last, YOU also have to shake yourself out of the bad habits too.

This effort takes a combination of mental, emotional, and physical ACTIONS committed to and adhered to for as long as it takes.

If you’re faltering or you’ve already lost your mojo, the real question is whether or not you were on the right track in the first place. If the answer is no, then it’s time to re-configure your goals and aspirations for the year.

If you’re on the right track and simply stuck, it’s time to find out why.

The only way forward is to be present with yourself long enough and consistently enough to discover the answers so that you can take the right action and keep moving forward. You can’t do that when you’re too busy being busy.

Stop. Reflect. Write down your thoughts long-hand and then commit yourself to getting back to work. When it comes to your own personal success there is no such thing as ‘auto-pilot.


The work of change is excruciatingly slow for those who really want it…

old mustang october 2019

written by john c ashworth

old mustang october 2019
Compare this old mustang to those on the road today. Certainly they’ve changed. But very slowly, year to year, and until you looked at this photo you probably had no real awareness of exactly how much.
photo by john c ashworth

The work of change is excruciatingly slow for those who really want it

Real change that lasts often comes in very small increments that are hard to see.

On an idle Friday afternoon halfway into November, you can either check-out for the day, or find a way to focus on something that will keep your own personal desired change moving forward.

What’s it gonna be?


Think Different. You Decide.

written by john c ashworth

I have an old book I refer to on occasion titled, “Mind as Healer, Mind as Slayer.” One of those titles that almost reveals enough all on its own. There’s a lot of great stuff inside that book. I encourage you to pick-up your own copy on eBay. The chapter on Autogenic Training is enough to change your life on its own.

I don’t have time this morning to get into all of that so here is the quick message I wanted to get to you today…

You decide on the caliber of information you allow in your mind.

You decide on the caliber of people you surround yourself with on a daily basis.

You decide on your environment and the ways in which you can create one that serves you or steals from you.

You decide whether or not you will be a victim or a smashing success.

Think Different.

Here’s just one simple example. Something I wrote back in 2015 when I was in the car business.


Stop hedging and go all-in

stop hedging

written john c ashworth

John ashworth standing on rock

Stop Hedging and Go All-in.

You will grow personally and professionally a lot faster by helping others grow along with you. In fact, this is one of the best ways to grow your small business and your career. This is also a big part of my mission here on The Ash Flash and in the work I do as a business to business salesman.

When you help others grow. Inspire them. Educate them. Make them feel good about doing business with you and work to really connect with them, both you and your customers win.

The problem is that most businesses get far too caught-up in their day to day struggles and their dire need to make sales right now, and then quickly lose sight of this idea. This opportunity to truly serve.

There are two keys to this….

First, and most important, no matter the context or the topic is this…

If your marketing stinks and you have lead-generation problems, the realities you face as a result of this problem will always limit your ability to truly connect with your customers in the way I’m describing here, because you will always be struggling to find the next one. You will find yourself constantly looking outward instead of also looking inward and cultivating the moment. Cultivating your best customers so that they ascend the ladder of your products and services, spend more money with you, praise your good work publicly and refer more customers more often.

As a side note, referrals don’t happen automatically either. You have to train your customers to do this for you. Generally, it won’t happen automatically. You need systems in your business for everything.

So, how do you foster a business and career culture that promotes cultivation of your customers and all your best relationships?

Stop hedging. Be authentic. Be smart about not overextending yourself, and be strategic in how you go about growing your business. Yes. Those are generalities, but the idea is that if you have a great product that solves a pressing problem for a specific group of individuals, you need to stay focused on that process and on that process alone and expand slowly, quietly, and carefully so as not to disturb the flow of your work, so that you can truly connect with those you serve, and be completely present for the next big idea when it arrives.

In order to make all this happen you have to go all in. You have to give this work and your process everything you possibly have to give and at all times. I won’t kid you. It’s not easy and it’s not always fun.

If you can live a life where the people and the customers you serve who know you the best, like you the most, you will have achieved this careful combination of grit and growth. You will have achieved the ability to be yourself and be successful. Still, it will likely take you longer than you think it should to get there.

The problem is that we all have a constant tendency to hedge, and offer concessions that don’t necessarily jive with our true selves, but that get us by in the moment because when we do this, we can avoid the emotional pain that is often the direct result of sticking to our beliefs.

Here on The Ash Flash it is my goal to be as honest with you as I possibly can, while also providing you important and insightful perspectives that will challenge you to adopt this kind of belief system and this kind of approach to running your small business and running your life. If you are interested in being a part of this community, I encourage you to subscribe to the email list as a first step. Once you are officially a part of the tribe, you will begin to receive additional information and communications from me that may just help you achieve far more than you ever thought possible.


PS Interested in having a conversation about just how you might implement this idea in a strategic way?

Send an email to: johncashworth(at)gmail.com and we’ll start a conversation. It is very likely that right at this moment there are many things I can help you achieve. That’s the magic Johnny Renaissance and my passion for life and true and lasting authenticity.


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